Post-Grad Reality

29 Aug


Think back to elementary school, chances are you were happy. You loved school, all the kids were friends and the biggest problem was whose turn was it to count during hide and seek.

Think back to middle school, chances are you were miserable. Everyone is going through puberty and treating each other pretty badly. Middle school is rough. So your mom or dad tell you that high school will be better, just get through this; it’s not forever.

Think back to high school, chances are you were miserable. Everyone is horny and treating each other petty badly. High school is rough. So your mom or dad tell you that college will be better, just get through this; it’s not forever.

Think back to college, chances are you have never been so stressed in your life. Sleep deprived and trying to have the “time of your life” while getting good grades and building a resume. College went fast and changes are your mom or dad told you to enjoy it because it’s not forever. And they  were right; college was a cluster of amazing memories.

Before you know it middle school, high school, and college are over. Now here you are as a post grad in the “real world” the real world that you were told (and told yourself) wouldn’t be miserable. But you are just a little bit miserable. Your friends are spread far and wide; coast to coast. You’re treading water with bills and student loans. You found a job but it’s not near as glamour’s as you imagined it would be.

The mean girls, the drama, the inflated egos of middle, high and college are still the same people just older. The thing no one seems to either realize or care to share is that the people who made you miserable as a kid, a teen, as a young adult are the same people. They don’t suddenly grow up and act like productive, cohesive members of society. But now instead of putting up with it for a finite period of time you’re now stuck with these people and your livelihood depends now on your ability to play nice.

I’ve noticed one thing is true for each and every single person I have come in contact with in the “real” world; everyone wants to be more, better, first, best….any word you chose. It’s like we use each other as a ladder and some people get trampled on your way to the top.

The only difference between the kids in grade school and the adults you work with? The kids are blunt and honest; what you see is what you get, heck you may even have a chance yet to teach them to be loving and kind to those around them. Adults are the way they are and won’t change. We will trample anyone who gets in our way to the top.

Are you the adult that is graceful and caring as you climb or are you the adult who tramples anyone they think will get them a little higher up the rungs?

The best way to avoid being miserable is to surround yourself with people who make you happy, cut loose anyone who doesn’t. In middle and high school you couldn’t do anything about the crappy people surrounding you. In college you tried to be fun and if like me you were in a sorority you needed to do your absolutely best x100 to be friends with everyone.

Now as a post grad you’re starting to realize it’s perfectly acceptable to cut ties with people who make you the opposite of happy. That’s what I’m trying to do anyway. You have one life. And yeah at work you still have to deal with (some of) the same annoying personality types you did in school; just remember you’ve had years of training!

No matter what if you’re truly not happy you still should find somewhere and do whatever it is that will make you happy.


5 Responses to “Post-Grad Reality”

  1. Kim September 6, 2013 at 1:52 AM #

    Wow! I raised an amaizing and eloquent and insightful daughter….how did I do that, maybe I had a little help or maybe I just got lucky that she was born to me as a blessed gift; thank you!

    A grateful mom

  2. jamielynnneal September 27, 2013 at 8:10 PM #

    I haven’t noticed anything yet…I’m not sure you would have a way to protect yourself to be honest…if someone was making money off of your content then you would need a lawyer and try to prove it. Which intellectual property is real so you could possibly win if you can prove it was your content first and they took it.

  3. jamielynnneal September 27, 2013 at 8:11 PM #

    Well you’re in good company!

  4. jamielynnneal September 27, 2013 at 8:11 PM #

    Thank you!! That is so nice to hear! I hope he liked it!

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