Tag Archives: Adult

You Know You’re An Adult When…

7 Nov
  1. img_0335You complain about the music played on Today’s Hits.
  2. Kids playing in the road make you nervous.
  3. The volume of music in your car has gone down.
  4. You enjoy driving without music at all, sometimes the silence is wonderful.
  5. You are able to give good financial advice.
  6. You have a routine on Sunday that includes cleaning your house and doing laundry.
  7. You have no problem asking for your mom or dad’s advice.
  8. You hold steadfast to your beliefs even if they aren’t popular.
  9. You gage your actions on their long-term effects.
  10. You made yourself a budget that includes putting money into savings.

 

Apologize

15 Apr

Gibson Girl 2In the past week I have had two people apologize for past indiscretions between us. They were both widely unexpected but very much appreciated.

Being a post grad and suddenly in the real-dog-eat-dog-adult-world you’re more aware of the people in your life and in your past that were more valuable then you thought and that the disagreements were actually insignificant and petty.

In the first year after I graduated I did a lot of mending and repairing and now I know who my true friends are and that they can be trusted, just as they know the same of me. You can’t expect something, trust for instance, from others if you’re not willing to exemplify that trait in yourself first.

I think it takes a special person to own up to their part in a relationship as well as for them to accept personal shortcomings; I know it wasn’t easy for me. It is a cool thing; finally accepting who you are, making amends where needed, and moving on with positive people in your life.

Make the first move in an apology where you can, own up to your part in it and accept apologies with an open heart, grace, and love.

Wake Me Up

10 Nov

0425Fear is such an unusual emotion. It affects our thoughts, our bodies, our actions…fear is perceived as a negative thing but I’m not so sure that it is.

Fear can protect you. We all have instincts to protect ourselves and that manifests itself as fear. We lock our cars our homes and we password protect our lives out of preservation…fear of the possibility of harm. But do we take the certainty of protection to far?

I really believe that you feel the most alive when you’re scare half to death. First day of school, first time you ride a bike, first time you drive a car, your first kiss, graduation, first day of your first adult job…your fearful of the possibilities but you keep moving forward anyway and that is life at the most beautiful.

The common notion is that youth is ignorant, they haven’t learned enough to understand the world, that they’re to wild and should learn to be cautions. Maybe its the youth that have it right and the wise that are too old to understand. Youth embrace life and walk through the fear more freely than an adult. I’m already feeling myself hesitate more with opportunities then I might of when I was younger.

Maybe we would all be a little bit better off enjoying life more and worrying less.

Tips on how to be a better Co-worker

10 Sep

GO-167-6 As a post grad and working full time in a professional environment it can be completely different than you expect it to be. People are just people after all. So do what you can to be a better Co-Worker

The Do‘s and Don’ts of Debate; These suggestions will make you a better person to work with:

  • Don’t be wishy-washy. Do uphold your morals and values.
  • Don’t be arrogant. Do be self-confident.
  • Don’t be unreachable. Do be willing to compromise.
  • Don’t let anyone get under your skin. Do recognize cheap shots for what they are – an attempt to get you to sink to their level.

I would recommend reading the whole article but the outline to go off of:

Dealing with Difficult Co-workers:

  • Tip #1: Be Prepared for ConflictPlay it out in your head before a situation ever arises so you can react with grace and not anger.
  • Tip #2: Don’t Fuel the Fire: The second you come back at them with anything like what they are dishing out to you they’re going to step up their game: making the situation worse.
  • Tip #3: Lend a Helping Hand: Maybe they have stuff going on in they’re personal life you don’t know about; it’s not at all an excuse for they’re behavior but trying to reach out to them as a friend could help them out and therefore defuse the cold war they have set in motion.
  • Tip #4: Get a Third Party InvolvedYou don’t ever want to look like the bad guy, so if you ask your boss for help in resolving the issue or diffusing the situation or clearly defining roles so you aren’t stepping on each others toes then you’ll look adult, responsible and like you truly care about your job.
  • Tip #5: Move On: And here is where the advice can be most difficult: If all else fails “there’s no point in giving someone the power to determine whether you’re going to have a good or a bad day at work”; MOVE ON and let it go.
  • My Tip #6: This isn’t in the article but I thought I would add it: Ask Your self what you are doing to contribute to the problem, there is always two sides to every issue. Maybe you don’t realize you’re being a jerk. 
  • My Tip #7: No Social Media: Even if you’re not Facebook or Twitter (or whatever else) friends with anyone you work with don’t air your frustrations online, you may think it is a safe space to vent; but its not. Scream, cry, eat your feelings all you want at home or with your friends, just not online; you never know who could see it.

I really hope you’re never in a locked horns situation but lets be real. There will always be the chance that someone is out for blood and headed your way. The only thing you can control is how you behave and how you react. This literally could be the difference between your reputation being  respectful and responsible or childish. Your reputation taking a hit could be the best outcome. If you don’t handle yourself well the worse outcome of handling a difficult Co-Worker  is YOU could end up the one fired. It’s not fair but it’s reality, don’t give anyone a reason to doubt you.