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19 Apr

“I remember the rules, rules that were never spelled out but every woman knew: Don’t open your door to a stranger, even if he says he is the police. Make him slide his ID under the door. Don’t stop on the road to help a motorist pretending to be in trouble. Keep the locks on and keep going. If anyone whistles, don’t turn to look. Don’t go into a laundromat, by yourself, at night.

I think about laundromats. What I wore to them: shorts, jeans, jogging pants. What I put into them: my own clothes, my own soap, my own money, money I had earned myself. I think about having such control.

Now we walk along the same street, in red pairs, and no man shouts obscenities at us, speaks to us, touches us. No one whistles.

There is more than one kind of freedom, said Aunt Lydia. Freedom to and freedom from.”

-Margaret Atwood, The Handmaids Tale

I just finished reading this book for the first time. I wasn’t sure what to expect necessary but having watched the Hulu version first my expectation was for the book to be obvious horror…the kind that slaps you in the face and knocks you down.

That is not the experience you have while reading this at all. It’s subtle, it sneaks up on you like slowly being boiled to death; you don’t really understand what’s happening until it’s too late.


Margaret Atwood creates and experience for her reader that mimics that of the characters. “See. This is how it happens. It’s slow. It’s gradual. Just a little at a time. Just a little more. BAM! Now it’s too late. You’ve given everything away, you’ve given it all up. You have nothing left.”

This is how it happens. You’ll never see it coming but all at once it’s here, it’s gone.

This particular passage about the laundromat is what has struck me to my core. I can’t stop thinking about it, even now chapters and days later it’s on my mind. I’m a single woman I have to think about how to keep myself safe, how to be smart. What to do, and not to do.

But the laundromat…I can picture myself at the laundromat I use, wearing yoga pants or shorts. Sitting on the dryer reading a book-reading: a forbidden act for women. It is “my own clothes, my own soap, my own money, money I had earned myself. [and I do have and I do] think about having such control.”

What it would mean to loose the control, the freedom, the power I’ve carved out in this world for myself? Am I already letting it slip away? Will I? Could I?

This has rattled me more then I thought it would.


Two for Two

12 Sep

I can’t believe I’m saying this but The Scooby Shack survived it’s second hurricane in less than a year.

The bubble around it during Mathew came into play again as Irma went through Florida. Hopefully this is the last hurricane to hit Florida for a while; not sure my nerves could take a third.

Another Year Gone 

1 Jan

2016 was another year of firsts, triumphs, trials, and tribulations. 

For 2016 I decided that I was going to have no expectations; I was just going to go with the flow and see where the 365 days took me.

That was the best thing I could of done.

I said yes to so many new experiences and had a pretty good year. I lost weight, renovated the tiny house I am living in, took a spontaneous trip to Seattle, I am more confident in my job, and I’ve had the chance to do things for the people I love.

So for the first time in a while I’m sending off the year without regrets. I said what I meant, I did what I wanted, and I tried new things.

I hope 2017 will be as filled with new experiences and awesome memories as 2016 was. 


31 Dec

 If a train in Ohio leaves the station in 2014 and spends 2015 gathering speed on the track that it’s on the passengers inevitably get comfortable; they settle in as the train speeds along.

That train is derailed.

Passengers are tossed about, bruised and shaken. They pick up their lives and build new tracks, maybe even a new train and head in a new direction.

That’s been my life this past year. I was headed down one path and was completely derailed and everything that followed changed.

Last year when I was thinking about what 2015 would bring I had no idea it would bring me to where I am right now. So for 2016 I’m not even going to try and guess what’s to come. What I know for sure is what I’m going to leave in 2015 and that’s what caused my train to derail.

It’s a new year. I have a new car and a new job in a new state, so I need to keep trying to make the most of this new start and not worry about having been derailed and the possibility of it happening again.

As For Traveling…

25 Nov

e222f810af3e0155276afa4835bbfeeeI’ve traveled “alone” a lot, in fact 90% of the time when I am traveling I’m going alone. But someone always takes me to the airport an someone is always waiting for me on the other side.

For thanksgiving this year, since I live in Florida right now, I traveled home to Ohio. For the first time ever I drove myself to the airport had to figure out parking an then getting to my gate (which I’m used to). Of course there is still someone on the other side waiting for me, but just having to get myself to the airport was new.

This “alone thing” I’ve been doing lately is fine…at least I’m going places and doing things, which has always been high on my list; I hate to be idle.

But, what I’m learning from all of my society labeled “valuable time alone” is that, as I suspected previously, I don’t want to be alone. What’s the point in going through life experiencing things totally alone? There isn’t a point. Sure I’m seeing an doing but I don’t have anyone to share that with.

Do I know now that I’m capable of doing things alone?


Do I like it?

Eh. Sort of I guess.

What I do know for sure is that I don’t want to go through life alone even if I am capable of it.

I suppose its quite a step just to realize you’re totally fine on your own. This also happens to be number one on my bucket list. Travel Alone; check. 


14 Nov

6a725472069d2004f534b761da5c901aSince moving to Florida I’ve tried to do more things alone, and I don’t mean just watching Netflix when I’m not at work, but I do that a lot too.

I’ve been going to the beach, taking photos, walking for miles, lost in thought and enjoying the view.

The other day I spent the day on the beach then went to a few stores and window shopped, got a pedicure, had dinner alone. It was a quiet day but I need to learn to like the person I am on my own.

I’m forcing myself to do this so I don’t have regrets later…I don’t look back on the time I lived in Florida as the time I never did anything but watch Netflix. I really don’t enjoy doing things alone…I used to refuse to even go to the grocery store alone, now I do it all the time.

It is a lonely life but maybe if I’m lonely now I won’t have to be lonely later…


Tossing shells into the ocean like pennies into a well.


Catching up on some reading.


Sunrise over the intercoastal

One Year Later

7 Jan

New Year 2015 formed from sparking digits over black backgroundA year ago New Years Eve I was throwing a single girls party with two of the handful of single friends I had left. I have a post about it HERE. I spoke about how it was depressing to be in my mid twenties having never experienced a kiss at midnight; saying goodbye to the year and looking forward to a new one together.

Hindsight is always 20/20 an no matter the dozens of people who tell you things will get better, will you ever listen? You just have to wait and see for yourself. I’d also been told a ton that the second you stop looking for someone they find you. I always thought that was a load of crap…well last New Years Eve I decided I was done looking and I was going to focus on myself.

Seems like I owe an apology to quite a few people because they were right. I stopped looking and then he found me. (Sort of anyway, we were introduced.)

I had several things on my New Years Resolution list that I am proud to say I accomplished!



2. check-ish. I’m happy, I could be happier.




I think 2014 was the single most successful completion of resolutions.

Bucket List #7 & 17; Check.

11 Oct

IMG_4013This post is a spoiler alert:

Another two bucket list items have been checked off the list, they’re two of my favorite and will probably be hard to top. Number 7.  Date Older Guys and number 17.  Go on a day date. I’m talking hiking in the park, trying a trapeze class, going kayaking. A man who will meet up with you during daylight has potential.

I went on several day dates (aka number 17) with an older guy (aka number 7) and now…I am no longer “single”.

So for the day dates we went to the local festival and ate cotton candy, rode a couple of rides, watched the parade and window shopped, we have also watched football and played corn hole, watched several movies an had lunch, he was also part of the ALS ice bucket challenge I posted about (he is actually the guy in the photo being drenched by a tractor bucket full of water)…really chill day date stuff and the pressure is way down when you go on a day date compared to an evening date.

il_570xN.209091144We did night time dates too; out to dinner and movies, watching game of thrones…classic night time dates once we were more comfortable with each other, or probably more accurately once I was more comfortable.

As for number seven, I won’t go into too much on the new boyfriend…we were introduced via some really great friends; his best friend is married to one of my best friends. He’s a little older then I am, college degree, country boy manners, good job, lives on his own, we have a ton in common and other then to say he’s basically the greatest;  he puts all other guys to shame.

I may not be “single” any more but this blog was a list of things to accomplish before I’m married which I am most definitely not married yet so the blog will go on!



Feb. 14th

14 Feb


How To: Fix A Busted Water Pipe

9 Jan

imagesIn the fridged weather most of the country has been experiencing this winter I’m sure the majority of households have had their pipes freeze, and some even had their pipes break under the pressure. No need to panic an call a plumber though. If your pipes are PVC, white/cream plastic I can give you some tips on how to fix it yourself.

1. First turn the water off. (We have well water so ours turns off via the water pump which is electric so we just go to the electric panel and switch that off.)

You’ll need to go to the lumber yard, or a store like Lowes or Home Depot and get a section of pipe that will replace the broken section. My lumber yard sells 2 in feet sections so I bought one of those. You’ll also need connector pieces. If the pipe is just straight then you need 2 standard connectors, if your pipe has a bend you’ll need a connector and an elbow. You also need to purchase a can of primer and a can of glue. If you don’t have a small hand saw you’ll need to buy one of those too.51R2gpHCJyL._SX300_jointingprocedures01

2. When you get home make sure everything is nice a dry and cut (saw) the pipe an inch or two above where it broke, on both ends. It will take a little time to cut out the section but it’s not difficult.

3. Once the old part is out dry the ends of the pipe that are left.

4. Use the purple primer on the new pipe, old pip, and connector pieces. You want to primer the area that will be glued together.


5. Put all the connectors together and make sure everything will fit, you may have to cut your new pipe shorter to fit in the pace of the broken pipe, just make sure the ends are all primed.This should only take a couple of sseconds to dry.

6. Once you make sure everything will fit back together nicely you can take it back apart and glue one end and one connector together and then glue that piece to one end of the old pipe.

7. Once that’s done glue the other side.

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**The glue should set up pretty quickly but I would honestly wait at least half an hour to an hour just to be sure.

8. Once your glue is all set up then you can turn the water back on!

Hope this was helpful, I think it’s really important (and pretty cool) if you can handle fixing small things on your own. Self-reliance ladies, self-reliance!

As always you’re welcome to ask questions!