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Anti-social minimalist millennial

25 Sep

There are so many things about the tiny house movement that are being championed by…well. Just about everyone.

The tiny house movement gives independence and home ownership to a generation of people burdened with student loans that might never be able to partake in the traditional American Dream of two-thousand-square-foot-white-picket-fence.

Some of the qualities being championed include:

  • Downsizing and living with what you need and not a mountain of consumerism driven desires.
  • Smaller impact on the environment living in a smaller space that takes less materials to build and less utilities to run.
  • The ability to travel not just to experience all that the world has to offer but also the ability to more easily pick up and move to where the current job availability is.

As someone living as part of the tiny house community I realized there is something we aren’t talking about. Yes we are doing the minimalist life style for great reasons…but I’d be willing to bet we are also doing it because we, “we” being mostly millennials, are an incredibly individualistic generation and we can’t handle living with a roommate or roommates; which arguably would be as cost effective as living in a tiny house. Perhaps more so since the square footage impact would be shared among several people the environmental impact would be lower.

I’ve personally lived in dorm rooms, apartments, and a multi-roommate scenario. Loved my roommates but I think overall everyone would agree we don’t love being roommates. We want our space. We want our privacy. And we want to not clean for a week and spend free time laying around watching Netflix in our underwear without anyone knowing and therefor judging.

The millennial generation is a social group…but we are the founding partakers of the social media boom. We like our social interactions on our terms and at arms length. The tiny house/minimalist movement perfectly aligns with everything we openly and secretly value.

We don’t have a lot of money to spare, we want our privacy, we want something nice, we want independence and stability but we also don’t want to be tied down. We are, overall, a generation of people who were shoved into four year colleges and universities because “that’s what you do”. We earned degrees we didn’t really think about the usefulness of and spending tens of thousands of dollars in the process of getting said degree.

I also think a factor driving a lot of millennials into the minimalist movement is that many of us watched our parents struggle to afford their large beautiful homes as the economy tanked during the recession and we don’t want to repeat the American economic mistakes that lead to the recession.

What do you think?


Social Media and the Generations

16 Nov

hand_drawn_social_media_fullI’m struggling with this gap between the different generations and their acceptance or mistrust of social media, I love social media, I love my Instagram, and my Facebook and obviously WordPress.

I grew up along side these platforms of self expression, and a means to keep in touch with friends and family far away, I love and in many ways depend on social media.

It’s my creative outlet and its my only means of communication with some people.

So when others around me have an aversion to social media, I can understand their point of view but I have a hard time really getting it. I know the negatives, its another way for bullies and stokers to abuse people and a new way to loose jobs or friends.

But I feel the positives out weight the negatives, because so much of the negatives can be controlled with self control and privacy settings.

It’s not even just a generational thing, some people my age are just as into it as I am, while others use it with less investment then myself. So I’m not really sure where the line is that causes people to fall on one side or the other.

If its not age, gender, education, location, income level, hobby related, or career related what is it? I don’t even think it’s a security or confidence thing because I feel like I am confident and secure in myself and yet I love it, so I know I am not using social media as a social crutch…

I’ve found myself with more question then answers as usual.

Tips on how to be a better Co-worker

10 Sep

GO-167-6 As a post grad and working full time in a professional environment it can be completely different than you expect it to be. People are just people after all. So do what you can to be a better Co-Worker

The Do‘s and Don’ts of Debate; These suggestions will make you a better person to work with:

  • Don’t be wishy-washy. Do uphold your morals and values.
  • Don’t be arrogant. Do be self-confident.
  • Don’t be unreachable. Do be willing to compromise.
  • Don’t let anyone get under your skin. Do recognize cheap shots for what they are – an attempt to get you to sink to their level.

I would recommend reading the whole article but the outline to go off of:

Dealing with Difficult Co-workers:

  • Tip #1: Be Prepared for ConflictPlay it out in your head before a situation ever arises so you can react with grace and not anger.
  • Tip #2: Don’t Fuel the Fire: The second you come back at them with anything like what they are dishing out to you they’re going to step up their game: making the situation worse.
  • Tip #3: Lend a Helping Hand: Maybe they have stuff going on in they’re personal life you don’t know about; it’s not at all an excuse for they’re behavior but trying to reach out to them as a friend could help them out and therefore defuse the cold war they have set in motion.
  • Tip #4: Get a Third Party InvolvedYou don’t ever want to look like the bad guy, so if you ask your boss for help in resolving the issue or diffusing the situation or clearly defining roles so you aren’t stepping on each others toes then you’ll look adult, responsible and like you truly care about your job.
  • Tip #5: Move On: And here is where the advice can be most difficult: If all else fails “there’s no point in giving someone the power to determine whether you’re going to have a good or a bad day at work”; MOVE ON and let it go.
  • My Tip #6: This isn’t in the article but I thought I would add it: Ask Your self what you are doing to contribute to the problem, there is always two sides to every issue. Maybe you don’t realize you’re being a jerk. 
  • My Tip #7: No Social Media: Even if you’re not Facebook or Twitter (or whatever else) friends with anyone you work with don’t air your frustrations online, you may think it is a safe space to vent; but its not. Scream, cry, eat your feelings all you want at home or with your friends, just not online; you never know who could see it.

I really hope you’re never in a locked horns situation but lets be real. There will always be the chance that someone is out for blood and headed your way. The only thing you can control is how you behave and how you react. This literally could be the difference between your reputation being  respectful and responsible or childish. Your reputation taking a hit could be the best outcome. If you don’t handle yourself well the worse outcome of handling a difficult Co-Worker  is YOU could end up the one fired. It’s not fair but it’s reality, don’t give anyone a reason to doubt you.

Journalist Turned Blogger

30 Aug

stock-photo-9359314-vintage-clip-art-and-illustrations-antique-typing-machineBlogger” sounds like such a dirty word. I’m a journalist; a once respected and trusted source of information and keeper of human history. But as journalists take a nose dive in credibility and popularity; especially in my chosen medium of print journalism, the blogger seems to be rising at an alarming rate.

As my beloved newspaper dies a slow shameful death the average Joe now records our history and breaks news. The once eloquent and meticulously chosen combination of words is replaced by a fleeting thought; a poorly constructed thought that the so called “writer” views as gold.

In today’s world every voice is expressed openly and without consideration to the effects and repercussions. What the journalist locked away in ink the blogger sends into an ether of code. And here I am a journalist, degree and published works to prove it and I’m reduced to blogging. A Hail Mary attempt to cling to my college education while my true passion crumbles under embarrassment and fraudulence.

I just started to accept the idea and function of the blog in the last several months as it became clear, working in a business setting, that working at a newspaper was slim. It’s my way of using my expensive skills and contributing thought provoking topics that I do spend quite a bit of time constructing, just like a would for a printed piece.

I view my blog as a column “a day in the life of a single woman”, I love when I know someone has enjoy the piece but my purpose was never to be popular. But attempt to record my part in human history and a way to hold myself accountable for my sometimes boring life.

Long Live The Newspaper